I have found it best to put the dehumidifier in the lung room, and set it at 55%. This works well in the summer, as the more the AC runs the less the dehumidifier runs.
Why in the world would you want your relative humidity in the 40% range?
Using a vpn chart and knowing what the growing temperature is will give you a much better idea where you should be. If your growing temperature is 80 degrees then the humidity should be in the 50-60% range during flower.
It is basically distilled water, and the PPM will be very low. As a result of the low PPM it will difficult to read the ph, until you add something to it like nutrients or cal/mag. With most modern dehumidifiers the condensate water only comes in contact with the aluminum fins on the coil, and with the plastic drainage devices. So it is safe for your plants, I have used hundreds of gallons of it.
I run my de humid out side my room. Partly so I can use it for a few tents. When I use it in my 4x8 tent. It will add a lot of heat to the room. I would run it in the big room you have as well. You have plenty of space in there
I pull about 3 gallons a night from mine when it is humid out at night. I can almost fill a rez just from water from the dehumidifier… It is not good for us to drink. But fine for the plants.