This old man needs some advice. I am feeling guilty. I will explain. Maybe its not a big deal, but i am feeling a little guilty and I haven’t even made any moves yet.
Here’s my dilemma. My parent was diagnosed and is being treated for a very aggressive cancer. Diagnosed and is being treated since 2018. The chemo is working, but the cancer keeps coming back. As long as the chemo still works, my parent will have an extended life.
I had to quit my career of 14yrs to avoid putting my parent in a home, because there is no other family alive to help take care of things, I’m the only caregiver. I also moved out of my place and moved in to help my parent full-time.
My stress levels are very high, i have the worlds weigh on my shoulders. I smoke daily, ciggs and weed since I’m a kid. I smoke heavy due to the stress. 2 packs a day, 5 joints a day. I’m always in the house as I never leave my parents side for long. Just to go on errands, etc.
I want to start growing again. I believe this will help me save some money by growing my own, and it would be good for my mind, like a hobby, etc. I was thinking of getting a 4x4 AC Infinity with a HLG Blackbird light. Anyhow, I feel guilty of bringing in a tent, and starting a new grow here. It’s LEGAL to grow here, I’m allowed to grow 12 plants legally. I only want to grow 3 plants right now, but I am feeling kind of guilty about doing it because of my parents medical condition.
I am always here taking care of my parent so i figured might as well grow while I’m stuck in the house 24/7.
What would you do?
My last grow was in the 1990’s. I went to Jamacia on vacation with my girl and I brought back Jamaican Thai seeds. I grew them. Biggest plants I’ve ever grown. The fan leaves were 12" wide, the fingers on the fan leaves were 17" long. Talk about a strong sativa plant. Anyhow, I want to grow again and looking to grow 3 Auto’s.
my hats off to you for taking care of you parent…growing can be a very relaxing and beneficial to good mind health… what you grow could also help with the cancer side treatment side effects…
Thanks. The neuro oncologist wouldn’t allow CBD/THC. I asked many years ago, and thank god, my parent has no major side effects, just some hair loss from the chemo.
I am with @Retiredoldguy
I enjoy growing, just having a hobby that few minutes or so taking my mind off all the other stress around me taking care of plants. I find relaxing, rewarding, and it saves money.
I encourage you to grow if it will please you. I am not in the same boat, but I do care for my wife with dementia. Growing gives me a bit of distraction each day and I have plenty of cannabis on hand.
Caring for our loved ones, while a labor of love, is very stressful. Even 5 or 10 minutes in the grow room can be a relaxing respite.
Man I know what you’re going thru. My dad was diagnosed about 3 years ago with cancer and it’s winning the battle. Over the last month Hospice has come in to help my mom, sisters, brothers and I to care and make him as comfortable as possible. My dad’s always been a casual smoker and my family and I encouraged him to do so while he was undergoing treatment. He’s actually what inspired me to start growing. I was gonna give him what I grew to help with his nausea and lack of appetite. But for the last 2 months he’s declined the offer and just wants all this to be over with. Keep fighting for that loved one and I have all the respect in the world for you!
Total respect for you. You gave up a lot to take care of him. It would help out with the smoke and something else to give the mind to think about.
I would grow.
Sorry for your situation. Cancer sucks! Hospice sucks. I’m not looking forward to hospice, if and when it comes my parents way. You’re lucky to have some help for respite. God bless you and your family, this isn’t easy.
Cancer sucks!!! I’m with you bro, caregiving is tough, especially solo. Cancer took three of my siblings, and my wife and numerous relatives have survived it. Growing and smoking are the small relief that helps me escape for a short while. If it doesn’t stress your parent out, go for it. It is legal. Good luck!
As a cancer patient I understand where your at.I was fortunate to have several caregivers.Which I have total respect for.
Cancer is a sneaky fu$&kin piece of crap.During my 7 weeks of cisplatin and radiation I was to beat up by the treatment to enjoy any homegrown meds.After treatment I was 70 lbs. lighter loss most of my hearing,minimal saliva production and I can’t taste sugar. All side effects of treatment.It just keeps giving.
Now neuropathy has shown up.
All this started 9 yrs ago.
WTF = Win The Fight
I have the greatest RESPECT for you.
I say get the growing equipment.It just may give you the recharge you need and possibly interest your parent.Praying you n your parent get thru this.
Sorry to hear @Mateo, good to see you’re in remission or total remission. 9 years is a long run man. You got to be exhausted too.
Were going for chemo next week for an outpatient “Rituximab” treatment. This is just for maintenance on a monthly basis. A 2hour drip. They are trying to keep my parent in remission because the shit keeps coming back. This is like the 3rd relapse. So i pray the MRI is clear/shows no cancer in December. Once I see the MRI is clean or cancer has relapsed again, I can take it from there. I need to grow, I’m spending too much $$ on legal weed.
I cared for my mom from 2020 to 2022. I moved in with her for a year only coming home Friday night at 10pm to Saturday at 8am.
At first i was going to say to go for it, it would be a great hobby for you.
But as i thought back to caring for my mom i think of all of the guests in and out. Although i cared for her 24/7 and changed her 14 wounds 2x a day…
The nurse came 2x a week, pt once a week, ot once a week, an aid once a week and then the family and friends.
Then when they started hospice the visits increased and added a NP and social worker.
I spose my question is, is the layout of the house where you can keep the smell contained? I live in a ranch with a finished basement, my grow room is in a bedroom in the basement. I have 2 in flower and when at the top of my stairs i get a hint of weed smell.
I think if your mom is OK with it and you can do it incognito enough then go for it.
Thanks Kim, I was thinking the same. I’m in a legal grow state. I can grow up to 12 plants legally. I am only going to grow 3 plants at first.
Unfortunately, I am going to setup in a 2nd floor bedroom, next to my parents room. The basement gets too cold. Electric is very, very expensive here, i don’t want to run a lot of electric such as heaters etc. The tent kit I am getting has the 6" inline carbon filter. I think that should help a lot.
Right now nobody visits as far as nurses, NP’s, etc. We go for our MRI in December, hopefully its clear. BUT eventually we are going to end up in hospice if the chemo stops working or if that’s the end of the line.
I was thinking if my parent has to have hospice here at the home, I will stop growing and focus on my parents end of life and then eventually re-grow once everything has settled.
I have no experience with hospice or having a parent die. I’m bracing for it, but i don’t think you can ever be prepared for parents death.
I had to quit my career of 13 years to take care of my parent. This is a major problem because when my parent dies, I just inherit the house. There is no money in the bank. So this means when i inherit the home, I’m going to need a lot of $$$$ for probate lawyer, property taxes, insurances, etc…
During my time of grief, I’m going to need to get a job again, or cash out my 401k to survive until i get a new job. To be honest I’m 53 yrs old and wish i could retire, i don’t want to work anymore. Especially for a big top 100 corporation again. I was making over 6 figures, but i had NO LIFE. I was on call 24/7. I just want to move away from the city and relax.
